Often times we parents are too caught up with the stresses of work that we unknowingly forget to attend to the needs of our children. Can we actually leave work in the office and devote our full attention to our kids when we get home? Some parents may argue that they are working for the kids' future, that's why they cannot devote time for the children. But our children need our time, attention, and love, not the monetary things we can offer them.
So, What are we doing for baby J to make sure that she is confident in our love?
1. We bring her with us wherever we go. Be it to the mall or overseas, we never leave home without baby J. Some people may argue that couples need alone time as well. That is true. But, bringing her along works well for the hubby and I. He does not want to travel without baby J, even if he has to carry an extra luggage because of her.
We noticed that travelling has been very good for baby J as well. She does not get fussy on the plane, she is quite flexible to changes in environment and food, and she is not afraid of people.
2. We do not shower her with toys, but with attention. Ever since baby J was born, we made it a point not to buy her many toys. She already gets toys from relatives and friends, so we felt that it isn't necessary for us to give her even more toys. So, what do we do instead? We bring her out to play. When we're in the mall and she sees a toy store, we allow her to explore inside and play for awhile. When it comes time to go, we just tell her to say goodbye to the toys and then we leave. So far, I am happy to say that baby J never had a tantrum, demanding us to buy her a toy. She is content to just explore and leave them.
We normally bring her to playgrounds as well and just let her run around and explore while we keep a close watch over her.
3. We always involve her in decision-making. Even if baby J is only two and a half years old, we always ask her for her opinion, be it for her preferred meal, whether she wants to go out or not, and even where she wants to go. We even bring her to check out potential schools for her, to see if she likes the place or not. We normally tell her things as well, relating to her like a small adult. We also always take time to explain things to her. You could see understanding on her face when we do this.
4. Bedtime means lots of hugs and kisses. We always have a bedtime routine of lots of hugs, kisses, and "I love you's". I have been telling baby J that when people ask her: "Does your mommy love you?", she should always reply:" Yes, very much!" I also remind her every night that everyone in the family loves her. Because of these things, I know she is confident of the love of the people around her. When I ask her sometimes if her mommy loves her, she will say yes and then proceed to elaborate the names of all our relatives and say that all of them love her too.
5. Always plan activities with the kids. Because of hubby's erratic work schedule, we don't have the weekends that other people do. So, any free day of the hubby is a special event for all of us. We normally plan a trip, even if it's just a trip to the mall, to the movie house, or a day at an amusement park. We try to make each day off a special one. We also try to expose her to new experiences whenever possible.
6. Always listen to what they have to say. Baby J involves us in all of her imaginative plays and stories. So, we make it a point to always listen to whatever she has to say, even if we're tired or sleepy. Because in her eyes, those are big things. Whenever she has something to say, we give her our full attention, no matter the time, no matter the place.
7. Always ask how they feel. At the end of the day, I always make sure to ask her if she had fun that day. I just want to check if she enjoyed her day or not.
8. They are always the first priority. The hubby and I always make it a point to make baby J feel that she is our first priority. Everything we do is always about her.
I think all these things are helping to mould her into a happy little girl, confident of her parents' love and affection.
What are you doing for your child today? Please do share.
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/15-small-things-parents-should-their-children-every-day-make-them-feel-loved.html?dgs=1&fb_ref=Default
So, What are we doing for baby J to make sure that she is confident in our love?
1. We bring her with us wherever we go. Be it to the mall or overseas, we never leave home without baby J. Some people may argue that couples need alone time as well. That is true. But, bringing her along works well for the hubby and I. He does not want to travel without baby J, even if he has to carry an extra luggage because of her.
We noticed that travelling has been very good for baby J as well. She does not get fussy on the plane, she is quite flexible to changes in environment and food, and she is not afraid of people.
2. We do not shower her with toys, but with attention. Ever since baby J was born, we made it a point not to buy her many toys. She already gets toys from relatives and friends, so we felt that it isn't necessary for us to give her even more toys. So, what do we do instead? We bring her out to play. When we're in the mall and she sees a toy store, we allow her to explore inside and play for awhile. When it comes time to go, we just tell her to say goodbye to the toys and then we leave. So far, I am happy to say that baby J never had a tantrum, demanding us to buy her a toy. She is content to just explore and leave them.
We normally bring her to playgrounds as well and just let her run around and explore while we keep a close watch over her.
3. We always involve her in decision-making. Even if baby J is only two and a half years old, we always ask her for her opinion, be it for her preferred meal, whether she wants to go out or not, and even where she wants to go. We even bring her to check out potential schools for her, to see if she likes the place or not. We normally tell her things as well, relating to her like a small adult. We also always take time to explain things to her. You could see understanding on her face when we do this.
4. Bedtime means lots of hugs and kisses. We always have a bedtime routine of lots of hugs, kisses, and "I love you's". I have been telling baby J that when people ask her: "Does your mommy love you?", she should always reply:" Yes, very much!" I also remind her every night that everyone in the family loves her. Because of these things, I know she is confident of the love of the people around her. When I ask her sometimes if her mommy loves her, she will say yes and then proceed to elaborate the names of all our relatives and say that all of them love her too.
5. Always plan activities with the kids. Because of hubby's erratic work schedule, we don't have the weekends that other people do. So, any free day of the hubby is a special event for all of us. We normally plan a trip, even if it's just a trip to the mall, to the movie house, or a day at an amusement park. We try to make each day off a special one. We also try to expose her to new experiences whenever possible.
6. Always listen to what they have to say. Baby J involves us in all of her imaginative plays and stories. So, we make it a point to always listen to whatever she has to say, even if we're tired or sleepy. Because in her eyes, those are big things. Whenever she has something to say, we give her our full attention, no matter the time, no matter the place.
7. Always ask how they feel. At the end of the day, I always make sure to ask her if she had fun that day. I just want to check if she enjoyed her day or not.
8. They are always the first priority. The hubby and I always make it a point to make baby J feel that she is our first priority. Everything we do is always about her.
I think all these things are helping to mould her into a happy little girl, confident of her parents' love and affection.
What are you doing for your child today? Please do share.
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/15-small-things-parents-should-their-children-every-day-make-them-feel-loved.html?dgs=1&fb_ref=Default
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